Hello Cupidfish I thought I’d join and tell my story becaue I thought it would fit on this blog. I am a newlywed as of three months ago. My husband and I dated each other for six years before getting married. However on our honeymoon the first night after the wedding we stayed in separate rooms, and the next night he went back to his house to take care of his mother. In short, we had no honeymoon what so ever and this really hurt. He said that once he gives an answer I need to accept it because now I am his wife? This is what my marriage life is like, we live separately because he lives with his mom and needs to take care of her her states that I shall not get in the way of his family, we meet every weekends for lunch and dinner on Saturday or  Sunday and he does not want me to call him because he claims he is busy earning money to support us and his mother/family. I am referred to as just his friend to his family they don’t know that after six years we are married finally. I am not invited to his family gatherings, and church gatherings. We don’t even display that we are married, in public no holding hands, nothing.

I for some reason think he is ashamed of me and when I was younger I was a  model and did local commercials, fashion shows, and many beauty pageants. I am better then average looking at 5′6” 120lbs, and very physically active at the gyms, and outdoor activity.

We did talk about this throughout our years of dating. He always complained that i did not know the meaning of marriage and that he does. I was forced to believe him. I trusted him that our lives would be different after marriage. He promised that marriage life would be really different from boy friend and girl friend. Guess he lied. Can’t believe i actually thought he was being truthful and  he always told the truth to me.  It could be his mother. She once sent me an email about how my “hubby” was not spending enough time with her, she wanted the only two days i have with him.When dating we spent the weekends together hiking, swimming, movies, and other activities. We lived apart as normal boyfriend girlfriend do. But i always thought that when we married things would change, just as he said they would. What happened now i spend almost 5 dinners a week either alone at a restaurant or at home, or if i am lucky I vist a girlfriend and help her out with her kids, as her husband is in the military.

I think it’s time to get a divorce. Don’t tell me that i should have thought about life before getting married and yes i did, thats why we dated for 6 years and were friends for 3 years before we dated. Is a divorce the right thing to do? what would you do in this situation?

Why have  I waited this long? I thought it was wedding jitters, something that he would get over with. Yes i do call but whats the point, he always says he loves me asks how is my day going so far, and if I know where i want to eat when we meet, or if i am still meeting with him on the weekend.

Thanks for letting me vent,

Beth