Hey cupidfish I thought I’d join this dating site and give it a go. I just dumped my 45yr old boy friend of 2.5 years. A majority of the time we got along great – as long as we are doing what HE wants to do. We’d go fishing, boating, and one time even went with him duck hunting etc. These are the only outdoor activities he enjoys. I enjoy them because it’s something we are doing together. However if I suggest we try something new or an activity I like to do such as going to an outdoor festival, go bowling, see a free concert in the park, take a day trip to the beach or mountains, he is totally resistant. He’ll roll his eyes and respond,”I’ll have to get back with you.” That was his answer to most of the activities I would like to do with him. Then he will delay so long in giving me a definitive answer about my suggestion that is it either too late to go or I’m just not longer interested. The last few times he had me wait for an answer I took a girlfriend instead. I thought this would make him feel left out or guilty for stringing me along, but he still didn’t care! He went fishing or hung out with his buddies. He doesn’t see why I’m making a big deal about it. But it infuriates me!

So now after I dumped him he wants to get back together and make amends. I am finished and truly am an (all things) outdoors type of gal, but sadly, most men over 40 turn to all talk and no action and just want to do the things they want or sit and watch sports and feed their pie hole. I am in my mid forties and understand why women my age or older turn to cougars because you older me lose your stamina. VENT off-

Jackie